The bottom line is that when Deb and I got married, she was a virgin and I was not. One of the modern myths about sex is that it’s just physical and no big deal. I don’t believe this and that is certainly not my journey. The emotions have been all over the place in my adult life. At one point I can experience the true forgiveness and redemption of Jesus with an understanding of grace that people with less checkered lives just can’t understand. On the other hand, there are still residual times when I ache for my choices of sexual activity before marriage. I don’t blame the girl. I know it was my decision and it pains me. If there was anything that I could take back, it would be those pre-marital sexual actions that I took during the dark ages on my high school years and young adult life. But I can’t.
I’m not a country western fan. In fact, I like to tell people that God created music and then Satan made an attempt at it which resulted in country-western. Really, there are so many different genres of music that I enjoy from classical to Christian hard rock. Head banger music is what our church admin assistant calls it. I’ve picked up a love for Irish, Scottish, and English folks music of late and sometimes old traditional Russian music will find its way to my Pandora stations. A seasoning amount of classic rock is threaded through my week as well. But I just can’t make the switch to country-western. Ok, maybe some John Denver once in a while. But that’s probably a bit more folk than western. No, country music and I just don’t do business with each other.
My wife however grew up on the country twang. Many of those songs bring fond memories to her and set her at ease. I don’t naturally like country, but she does. Thus the question of what do we listen to over the car radio.
It had been a long day as Deb and I were dropping off our girls for youth group. We try to grab date nights whenever we can. When you’ve been married for just over 26 years even fast food has a romantic ring to it. So with a coupon that Deb was graced with from one of her students, we headed to Chick Fil A with the anticipation of not having to clean a kitchen and enjoy some time without teen drama. The problem was that the line was taking forever and the day was just getting longer.
I wanted to bolt, but Deb was much more patient. To encourage me she suggested a bet; which is something she hardly ever does. In her confidence, she offered a bet that if we were not through the line in 10 minutes she’d wear a corset that night.
What? A preacher talking about the intimate details in marriage? Well why not? Actually the Bible does speak about the subject in quite wonderful ways. The unfortunate deal is that our present Western culture has allowed Hollywood to highjack the subject. Yes, God really did create sex and preachers really do engage in it. So today and later in a second installment I’ll share 5 quick points on the subject that just might help us restore a truly Kingdom mind set about sex.
Like many Americans I’ve been frustrated by the attitudes and actions of my fellow citizens since Donald Trump was elected and took office. But yet my somberness is not the same as the political angst being flooded throughout the media waves and coffee houses across the land. My frustration has to do with the body of Christ.
That’s right! Today marks the 25th anniversary for Deb and me. Earlier today I went up to Deb’s school and surprised her with an anniversary ring and a second proposal. Big thanks to Kayla Stanfield for setting up the logistics. For everyone who missed the occasion; my “Re- Proposal” went something like this:
Deborha, 25 years ago today we made a promise. I made one to you and you made one to me. More importantly, we made a covenant promise before God, the Father, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. We‘ve kept that promise. We’ve been faithful to the covenant. We’ve had quite the adventure.
All of Jesus and the Truths that Test Part III The Act of Marriage. (LGBT, Adam and Eve, and Six Challenges for Us All)
Jesus never spoke on the issue of gay marriage. That’s what my LGBT friends report. If we’re looking for those specific words, then they are correct. But on the other hand, there are other issues, such as embezzlement, of which Jesus never talked about either. However we know His teaching on the specific because of what he said in the general about possessions. “Give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar and to God what belongs to God” and other references. In like manner we can see that Jesus covered not only the idea of gay marriage, but all marital issues when He took the religious debaters of His day all the way back to Genesis.
God created mankind distinctly as male and female. The two being differently and completely complimentary to each other. The essence of the act of marriage is the union of those two different beings into one.
What’s it like to grow up with a LGBT worldview? How do we reconcile the clear Biblical teachings on sexuality, personhood, and the real feelings of homosexuality? In a world of relativity how can we approach this present question with both grace and truth? Join us for the Discussions Sunday night as we welcome pastor and author Caleb Kaltenbach to the show. Christianity was the last thing on Caleb’s mind when he grew up in a LGBT household but that all changed when he met the authentic Jesus Christ in High School. If there is a way to approach this topic with truth and grace Caleb is the one to know. So set your schedule now and get your questions ready for our live webcast Sunday night at 8p Central. We will also be giving away a free copy of Caleb’s book, Messy Grace, to someone in the viewing audience.
Catch us here or on the “Sunday Night Discussions” Google + page.
For some Father’s Day ushers in a number of confusing emotions. I feel a sense of sorrow at the identity confusion of Bruce Jenner and can only wonder how he and his family are emotionally tackling Father’s Day this year. I also though feel a sense of almost bewilderment at the social media’s confusion and acceptance of Jenner’s self proclaimed transition into womanhood. Until recently such a story would only be found in supermarket tabloids along with pictures of Big Foot, alien sightings, and write ups about how Hitler was actually found alive living in the Amazon basin last Thursday. But here we are now in America with the Jenner journey and similar headlines not only being accepted by serious news outlets but also being trumpeted as heroism by the White House. While I agree that people like Bruce may struggle with uncomfortable emotions, the fact remains that a human being with an X and a Y chromosome is a male and a human with two X chromosomes is a female and no amount of hormone injections and plastic surgery will change that. Why is this not clear?
The ruse of Rachel Dolezal was clear this past week. Her self-proclaimed identity transformation from a caucasian woman to a black woman was rejected by just about everyone in culture. While Dolezal may feel black and desire to live life as a black woman, everyone knows she is not such.
So why is Jenner’s identity confusion being welcomed with open arms and celebration? Does it even matter?
That’s right! Sunday Night Discussions is coming back. SND is a live webcast for tough questions and honest discussion about God, life, and the world we share. This Sunday at 8p Central we’re kicking off another season with our special guest, Michael Cusick. Michael is a counselor, ministry leader, author, and founder of Restoring The Soul Ministries in Denver, CO.
For the Discussions this week, Michael will be talking with us about the issues of a man’s soul and the connection to the estimated 68 million searches for pornography every day. While the questions may be many, the answers are found at a much deeper level than mere willpower. The lines between this problem, God, and our soul is more profound than you might think. In Michael’s book, Surfing For God, he quotes the 20th century theologian, G.K. Chesterton who observed that “Every man who knocks on the door of a brothel is knocking for God.”
So start making plans now to catch the show and feel free to participate. The program will be aired through Google +. If you are viewing through that medium on the SND page you can send in questions during the show. We will also embed the link here Sunday Night so that you can also submit questions or observations in the comment section. In addition, we will also be giving away a copy of Michael’s book to someone in the viewing audience at the conclusion of the show.
So grab a friend and come hang out with us Sunday at 8p central as the Discussions begin.
PS For all the “Walking Dead” fans out there looking forward to that season kick off; just set the tech up to record the show as you won’t want to miss our live discussion.
See you soon.
Two months ago we ran a show asking the question of what it means to be a Godly man in our present culture. Tonight we’re turning the coin over and asking the same question of the ladies. Join us this evening with author and speaker, Cindy Dagnan along with Beth Tippett and my favorite person in the world, Debi Hinton as we dive into the question of Godly Womanhood.