The bottom line is that when Deb and I got married, she was a virgin and I was not. One of the modern myths about sex is that it’s just physical and no big deal. I don’t believe this and that is certainly not my journey. The emotions have been all over the place in my adult life. At one point I can experience the true forgiveness and redemption of Jesus with an understanding of grace that people with less checkered lives just can’t understand. On the other hand, there are still residual times when I ache for my choices of sexual activity before marriage. I don’t blame the girl. I know it was my decision and it pains me. If there was anything that I could take back, it would be those pre-marital sexual actions that I took during the dark ages on my high school years and young adult life. But I can’t.
It had been a long day as Deb and I were dropping off our girls for youth group. We try to grab date nights whenever we can. When you’ve been married for just over 26 years even fast food has a romantic ring to it. So with a coupon that Deb was graced with from one of her students, we headed to Chick Fil A with the anticipation of not having to clean a kitchen and enjoy some time without teen drama. The problem was that the line was taking forever and the day was just getting longer.
I wanted to bolt, but Deb was much more patient. To encourage me she suggested a bet; which is something she hardly ever does. In her confidence, she offered a bet that if we were not through the line in 10 minutes she’d wear a corset that night.
What? A preacher talking about the intimate details in marriage? Well why not? Actually the Bible does speak about the subject in quite wonderful ways. The unfortunate deal is that our present Western culture has allowed Hollywood to highjack the subject. Yes, God really did create sex and preachers really do engage in it. So today and later in a second installment I’ll share 5 quick points on the subject that just might help us restore a truly Kingdom mind set about sex.
What’s it like to grow up with a LGBT worldview? How do we reconcile the clear Biblical teachings on sexuality, personhood, and the real feelings of homosexuality? In a world of relativity how can we approach this present question with both grace and truth? Join us for the Discussions Sunday night as we welcome pastor and author Caleb Kaltenbach to the show. Christianity was the last thing on Caleb’s mind when he grew up in a LGBT household but that all changed when he met the authentic Jesus Christ in High School. If there is a way to approach this topic with truth and grace Caleb is the one to know. So set your schedule now and get your questions ready for our live webcast Sunday night at 8p Central. We will also be giving away a free copy of Caleb’s book, Messy Grace, to someone in the viewing audience.
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I still remember young Boris from Moscow, Russia. He absolutely loved to debate with me about Christianity. At one point he suggested that the problem with the faith of Jesus was that it simply was not practical to daily life. The premise of Boris could not be further from the truth. While Jesus spoke of Heaven and a future beyond, authentic Christianity is anything but unpractical to daily life today. Knowing Jesus is quite the opposite. Join us Sunday night for the discussions as we welcome minister and author, Chris Goldman to the show to examine true Faith in Action. Peace with God comes by His grace and our faith in what Jesus did for us on the cross. Yet an authentic faith produces action as seen in James where he notes that without deeds is dead. Paul, in Romans also pointed to an obedience that comes by faith. Indeed, true faith produces action and that action affects those around us. So what does it look like to live an active life of faith in the 21st century?
What is God doing in our day around the world? Most of my kingdom work is centered in an American cultural context. But what is God doing beyond the box of Western and American thinking about Christianity? Join us this Sunday at 8p Central as we welcome Dr. Chris DeWelt to the show. We will be looking at God and global Christianity. Chris comes to the discussion with the experience of having lived in the cultural context of Chile for 8 years and has served in close to 80 other countries and cultures. Presently Chris serves as Director and Professor of Intercultural Studies at Ozark Christian College in Joplin, Mo.
What is God up to around the world? What does authentic Christianity look like in other countries and cultures around the globe? What is it about authentic Christianity that transcends culture? How can we be involved in God’s work no matter where we are on the earth? Those and many other questions will be part of the discussion Sunday night. Don’t miss this exciting internationally charged live webcast. You are welcome to send in questions ahead of time or you can participate live through our SND Google + page, our SND Face Book page, or through the comment section here. So be sure to plan ahead and grab a friend and we’ll see you tomorrow night.
Where does the burden of proof rest in discussions about Christianity? Can the claims of Christianity be rationally defended or must we check our brains at the doors of faith? Join us Sunday night at 8p Central as we welcome apologist Larry Lewis live from Berlin, Germany. Larry is director of the Connections Resource Center in Berlin. Connections is part of a larger effort known as the Open Door Libraries which bring the knowledge of God to countries where Christian teaching and resources have been limited or restricted.
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Where did the weakness come from? Many sociologists will point to a turbulence in time which we know as the 1960s in America. With free sex came fractured families which lead to countless boys growing up without a dad to lead the way. While such statistical data is something to consider, the real root resides much further back in history. The real problem goes all the way back to our first father, Adam, and his forgetting who he was.
What we find in the ancient order of things before sin entered the picture is that Adam was strong. God created Adam to actually rule over creation, to tend the garden and creatively name the animals and even his own wife, Eve. Imagine; all of God’s creation was set down in front of Adam to govern. In short, Adam was created strong. The problem arose when for whatever reason, Adam lost sight of his heart and gave up his strength as Eve slipped into the grasp of the evil one. Adam did nothing. Eve and humanity suffered. Adam forgot who he was. The result was more than his personal anti-mission, but total brokenness within himself, with his wife, and ultimately with God.
But thank God the historical narrative didn’t end there. This past Christmas we were reminded that God stepped into history and made a way for things to be different. Jesus Christ came to bring life and restore our hearts. Jesus Christ came to restore our strength. Yes, we deal with brokenness and the brave man acknowledges that. But yet, when we come to Christ and walk daily with him we can see that God is truly in the restoration business. While we will never experience perfection this side of eternity, we can get a glimpse of what God had in store for us in the life of Adam as he was meant to be. God made Adam strong so that he might bring strength to the world. God made you strong so that you might strengthen others.
So as we get ready to enter the second month of 2015 what can you do to strengthen those around you? Could you be more present for your wife and children? Could you be more supportive of your local church family and its leadership? Could you reengage with some other guys in your life as a band of brothers?
Whatever it might be, the fact is that our strength starved world is waiting for you to push toward the chaos and make a positive change. Yes, they’re waiting for you.
Concluding in the words of Paul; “Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage, be strong. Do everything in love.” 1 Corinthians 16:13-14.
I have a confession to make. I’m sorry. But for a long time I have tried to shy away from the term “Fundamentalist.” Tried? Well actually I’ve purposefully said before that I am in no uncertain terms; “not a Fundamentalist.” Now I’m not so sure. The issue with the term is that the only time we see it in print or conversation these days is when it is used to compare a Christian to the Westboro Baptist Church cult or an Islamic group that wants to take over the world. You see my dilemma?
The problem is that the term today is thrown onto anyone who opposes gay marriage or really any social pillar that the politically correct left holds sacred. In essence the media has beaten the dead horse of the Westboro comparison to such an extent that the true ideals of fundamentalist thought are now unrecognizable.
Recently I came across a movie covering an event that I apparently missed in my history classes. The flick came out in 2012 and recounts a decisive battle that took place on September 11th of 1683. Like the infamous Sept. 11th, 2001 that so many of us remember, this battle was also begun by Muslims in the name of Allah. The Day of the Siege is the name of this historical drama that remembers the Muslim army of over 300,000 soldiers from the Ottoman Empire with the intent to conquer Vienna and ultimately Rome thereby turning the Vatican into a mosque. The main character in the piece was a humble Catholic Monk named Marco d’Aviano who lived from 1631 to 1699. It was Marco who encouraged and united the western forces which ultimately led to the defeat of the Ottoman army.
In light of some recent social discussions a friend sent me the clip below which is incredibly timely and pertinent for our day. The speaker in the clip is an ex-lesbian and feminist scholar. I’m particularly recommending her story for everyone trying to honestly discern truth verses myth in our modern cultural debate in Europe and the West over sexual identity and the subsequent ramifications. Dr. Butterfield is a brilliant, rational thinking, and deeply theological woman. In this lecture she gives some serious and loving answers to legitimate questions as she speaks with the experience of having come from the LGBT community and a post-modern world view. I linked an article about Dr. Butterfield on my Face Book page several months ago, but decided to include her story here because of the way she so meticulously addresses the question at a root level in the lecture. Here are at least four points that immediately came to mind when I reviewed the clip: